As a young girl I was not the least bit interested in having children, to be honest, my sister and I were going to California to open a boutique and become "Movie Stars!" I used to ask myself why would my mom want to have 7 children. She had 5 of her own children plus my brother and myself. What the heck could she be thinking? How could my mom achieve her dreams and be a mother at the same time! Not sure how she did but she has amazed me throughout the years!
There is something so sensational about my mom. She is strong, she is beautiful, she is a survivor! My mother is quite the "LADY," very different from me! I watched her through the years dealing with my brothers and sisters. When will she have the life she wanted and dreamt about when she was a little girl? There was no way I was going to follow in her footsteps! "I am never getting married and definitely not having children!"
She was a busy lady with seven kids. She worked full-time, she put herself through college via mail, she coached cheer-leading and kept score for my dad's baseball team. To me my mom was and is the most amazing woman I had ever met and the best part she loved me, she was "MY MOM" and she picked me!
Then it happened to me, I finally understood, I gave birth to my first son, John in February, 1983. He was soooo beautiful, he was my flesh and blood, he was my own child, the child I swore I would never have, next it was Bob, November 1985, I fell in love all over again. Something has changed inside of me forever, it was motherhood! I became a better person, truly an unselfish person. I enjoyed it, I loved it, it defined me, know I finally know my purpose!
Life changed dramatically in the 90's I became a single mother, on top of that I literally received a gift on my doorstep, my son Ryan, almost 14, it was as if he was a gift from above. It was my chance to do something good in this world to really make a difference. My mom taught me that! She did it for me!
Motherhood is a real job, there is no salary or job as rewarding!
This post is not about me or my children but about the woman who taught me about love and nurturing. It's about a woman who spent month's accumulating enough T-Bone Steaks so the entire family could enjoy it together, the woman responsible for 7 kids's well-being and happiness and still had the ability to stay happily married. It's about the woman who waited patiently for her hopes and dreams. Then one day, I understood it, motherhood is and was her hopes and dreams.
So Mom, I just wanted to say....I love you...I am proud to be your daughter....I used to think the best parts of me came from dad....I have since learned I was wrong! Thank you mom in all you sacrificed but most of all Happy Mother's Day.....you earned it! Oh, and Daddy, if you are reading this, Happy Mutha's Day to you too! I love you both!
"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new." ~Rajneesh
AWESOME post, Midori.....
A tribute to all moms and your in praticular.......
A STAR for you.....!!
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Very nice post ,Happy Mothers day!
I sent you an email last night so I was not sure you received it.
Luisa-Happy Mother's Day! My mom is pretty amazing! Thank you for the compliment, I do believe we love the best way we know how. My mom taught me how to love and her mom taught her how to love! I really think I was lucky! I am going to kick back and relax. Thanks for commenting...
Corey and Tracy-Thank you and it all comes from the heart! I am going to call my mom tomorrow, if I try on Mother's Day, I may not get through! Thanks for stopping by..... Happy Mother's Day to you!
Alex- Thanks for stopping by!!! Yes without our mom's we would not have had life! Thank you for the gold star! You too, enjoy mother's day and I hope you get out between the kids and grandkids! Always a pleaure!
Mana-Thank you! I enjoyed writing it! Happy Mother's Day to you too and I appreciate the comment!
Lysa-Happy Mother's Day! Thank you...........Enjoy your weekend!
Linda-You are right! My son's have honored me quite a few times in ways I never would have imagined them to do! Happy Mother's Day Linda and thank for stopping by.
Hi Midori,
I am at Mom & Dad's right now. I sure am glad I was sitting close to the tissues when I read this one.
Love you
Sally-Thank you! Right back at you, Happy Mother's Day!
Neal-Thank you....yes I got your e-mail! I have only said this to one person but I will say it to you, Happy Mutha's Day, I say it to my dad every Mother's Day! I will visit your new post in the morning!
Paula-Thanks for stopping by! Happy Mother's Day to you and yours.
Hi Albert-Ahhhhhhh, good for you! Yes my posts have been a little on the mushy side this week, it is in honor of Mother's Day! This one came straight from the heart. Have Fun, Albert.
xoxoxoxoxox
What a wonderful tribute to your mother and all mothers! My husband was specially picked by his mother and she always made him feel very special.
Thank you Midori and Happy Mothers Day to you.
Jeff and Rocky- Thank You for reading. Last night I saw the best Oprah show ever, I hope that you both caught it! It was an interview with Demi Moore on motherhood. It was awesome! Her wisdom was so powerful!
I know in my heart your children will be sooooooooooo grateful and grow up to be sooooooooo incredible, especially on the inside! Your posts and Rocky's, have really made me appreciate my family even more, helped me to understand what my parents went through when I was moved into my new family and growing up, most of all real awakened something inside of me!
Although my situation was very different there were still similiar issues your children will have to face. I was born in Japan and 1/2 Japanese, people can be very cruel, even cruel to my parents. That was in the 70's, in school I was picked on a bit, thank goodness the world started to change. But is the change fast enough? I guess what I am trying to say is you are strong, make your children stronger, arm them to be able to defend and protect their emotions. My parents taught me that. I honestly hope someday I get the opportunity to meet you both! You remind me of something I treasure the most, the memories of my childhood!
Gwendolyn -Thank You! It's easy when your mom is so wonderful! I only wish I would have known sooner! I feel like I missed some of the best parts of her growing up. I gotta tell you my mom is one cool chick....I appreciate the kind words!
Monika-Wow, as a baby? I was 7 when I moved to my family. I have to tell you that my whole life I have been drawn to people who have gone through similiar things in life, meaning there is usually a feeling I get before I get to know someone. Interestingly enough, you are one of those people! Does that ever happen to you? I wish you a beautiful Mother's Day
You go girl! I hate that saying.:)
Happy Muthas Day......http://activerain.com/blogsview/97324/MOTHER-RAIN-HAPPY-MOTHERS
Hi Neal-Thank You and right back at you! I could not see the vid....will go back when it is fixed. Thanks for the warm wishes and you know what you go boy!
Donna-Ahh, I wish I would have saw that! You tears, hehehehe! I have a hard time telling her that is why I wrote it! I am sooooo mushy but it's hard for me to really tell how I feel. But I am working on it! Happy Mother's Day my friend, I hope you are enjoying it!
Midori...I am just stopping by to share a "Motherly" message with you. From one Mutha to Anutha :)
Wishing you my best for today and all the other special days to come. TLW...ROAR!
Midori...
No. It doesn't get easier. It's up to us to adapt and to do it with all the power and grace that we have been given as women. Time will help. But when you see things like that video you will cry. I get teary eyed when I watch it too. I listen to that song twice a year. Once on their Birthday and once on Mother's Day. If I listened to it more often than that I would be an emotional mental case :)
Just so you know I used to sing that song to my identical twin boys when they were growing up. They are now 31 and between them they have given me 5 Grandchildren. My Sons now sing this same song to their own children. That in and of itself also makes me teary eyed. But it also tells me I did a good job. Think about how well you have done with them and that my dear will put a smile on your face :)
TLW...ROAR!
Midori,
What a wonderful example of love and motherhood you are. I am sure you make your mother very proud and a great example of generosity for your boys to follow.
Thanks -Midori!
Being a Mom myself I am just concentrating on Leaving a Legacy for my children founded on God's Word and by example and deed.
Gorgeous Post. Loved it
Ben
Thank you for this beautiful tribute to your mother. I, too, thought I would never have children when I was younger, but now I have 2. I am currently experiencing single motherhood. It is hard, but I wouldn't give it up for the world. I'm so glad we have mothers that have taught us how to give sacrificially.
Robin-My mommy rocks! Single motherhood is difficult but I can tell you on a personal note you will get through it! I raised my three boys by myself! It all started when my youngest was 10.
Single Motherhood is very special! Your relationships with your children will be the same! Children understand more than we give them credit! My boys were and are my best friends. That is the blessing you get with being a single mom and least for me it was!
We struggled but they know one thing..................MOM always did her best! The best lesson a child can learn.
My boys and I are very close and nothing, I mean nothing can ever change that including the man! My new husband has and is quite supportive. My last son flew the coupe just recently which has affected me but all is good and I am enjoying the free time and privacy!
I am happy you have a good role model for motherhood. We are blessed just as my kids are and yours! Thank you for stopping by and sharing and believe me I know you are one special mom, I promise you your kids know it and will never forget ! thank you for sharing with me!